Beauty doesn't have a size!!

“You are so fat!”, said someone. “You need to join a gym and lose that weight!”, said another. “You are fat and ugly and disgusting!”, exclaimed someone.

When someone says that being fat is ugly or disgusting, they really need to understand than fatness is not ugly, period.

I as a kid always loved eating cake and biscuits, but I was active in sports and cultural activities too. When puberty hit me, I started gaining weight and the only sports the teachers at my school would ask me to participate were “tug-of-war” or “kabaddi”.

The people at my school would make fun of me, would call me “fatty” and would never talk to me.

By the time I was 15; I had lost most of the “so-called” friends and had lost all hope of having any left in the near future.

I had lost all my self confidence by then!

When I had to leave my town for studying grad, I was scared to go because even there people won’t talk to me or would bully me!

But the truth turned out to be different! People welcomed me with big smiles and kind hearts. I slowly started gaining my lost confidence.

My confidence was shattered once again, when a guy had declined my proposal only because I was chubby. But then I met another guy, who loved me as I was! Who would take me to McDonalds or to a local ‘vada pav’ street side stall and kiss me without any disgust!

I was in love with myself once again. I started experimenting with my looks, started going to saloon every month and kept an eye on what and how much I ate.

I was asked to perform by my class mates in a group dance, and I pulled it off very gracefully! 

From that day, I decided, never to look back on the bullied days and just love myself more and more every single day!

When I broke up from my first ever serious relationship after almost 2 years, and got committed to another guy, I grew further! I started workouts, diets, said no to junk, aerated drinks and the list goes on…

I lost significant amount of weight that people started praising me. I loved getting that attention!

Months passed by and it became difficult to keep up with the schedule and I started putting on. Meanwhile, unfortunately (or should I say fortunately?) this relationship didn’t last as well.

But this time I decided no relationships anymore. Just love yourself, focus on what you love to do, write, read, roam, plan the career and set goals!

And that is what exactly I did!

3 years after that traumatic break up, today I am a confident, self made, career oriented woman and have few real friends who encourage me to live my dream of becoming a writer and a wanderer; and trust me one day I will!

I have grown so much over all these years!

Especially after that guy who left me without giving any explanation!!

Today when someone says I am fat and ugly, I don’t feel bad or insulted, I laugh at that woman or that guy who says so because, the same comment was hurled at me from the guy, whom I had left years ago for cheating on me!

The point is:

I don’t really get this concept of calling someone who is on a heavier side as ugly or with any debasing words? If someone is skinny, people still comment! If someone has “so called” perfect figure body or 6 pack abs, people still say things! WHY?

First of all there is nor was a perfect body that should be defined as "36-24-36"

My mom has always taught me, if you can’t say anything nice, do not say anything! But sometimes, however awful or terrible it is, you got to say that to some people who keep bullying you or underestimate you or your being!

I did exactly the same by saying that I love myself as I am! A strong, confident woman!

I was born fat and have always been which was just fine and even healthy and cute until I turned ten or so. Puberty hit like a hurricane and brought a new set of rules. All of a sudden it was my fault I was chubby. - Beth Ditto

Marilyn Monroe says –

Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, not with a mathematical definition! A weight scale can tell you your weight not your beauty! You may be able to calculate your BMI value but not how beautiful you are especially not based on these numbers!

I agree, being fit and healthy is important for later stages of life, and that being overweight does invite a lot of illness (thyroid, hypertension, low stamina, etc.) but just on a number no one can define beauty.

Being called ugly and fat and disgusting to look at from the time I could barely understand what the words meant has wounded me so deep inside that I have learned to hunt, stalk, claim, own and defend my own loveliness - Margaret Cho

Beauty is accepting yourself as you are and being comfortable in your own skin and not giving a damn to people who pull you down or utter mean comments about you.

People will make mean comments. People are going to say that you're fat, that you're this, that you're that. You just have to be comfortable in your own skin - Ashley Benso

So all the people out there who have been belittled or bad-mouthed by people for being fat or ugly or whatever, ignore them and have that damn pizza or pastry and never, ever get affected by anyone’s stupid comments!

Stay happy!! Love yourself!! Laugh out hard!! Eat what you want!!

TIP: Eat whatever you want and if someone tries to lecture about your weight, eat them too ;) ha-ha!!