The PINK Revolution !!

when will we woman get real freedom...??

Recently, a friend of mine texted me saying he had some good news to tell!

Expecting it to be him getting married, I asked him if it were so?

He replied with an affirmative for the wedding but his sister's wedding.

I was shocked for awhile after reading that text as she was very young and had recently completed her graduation. 

He said the wedding is expected to be held around this year in December or maybe in February 2017.

Though it was none of my business but still curious to know why was she getting married so soon, I asked him if it was an arranged marriage because if it was, then I would definitely talk some sense to both his sister and his mom. 

He denied saying, 'It's love getting arranged into an arranged marriage.' 

And before I could even ask about the guy, he quickly filled that piece of information as well- 'you must be knowing this guy! He is a gujju and owns this shop in the market!' 

I, knowing this shop very well as I was a regular customer could quickly make my brain jog for a while and find his picture. 

That guy was decent looking, and came from a business family. I knew he had taken over his dad's business like every other gujju guy in our town! 

I was about to congratulate my friend for his sister's wedding, but before I could, he said - 'He's a nice, settled family guy, my sister has nothing to do post marriage. She just has to dress up, and sit at home and would have few servants whom she can command. She would have to leave her job now as a teacher, though!' 

I was quick to reply, 'Teacher?' 

He said, "Yeah, she was teaching in this school in our town but the guys family has asked her not to continue her job post marriage." 

I asked him the reason for this and he inquired instead as to why would she need a job post marriage in the first place? The guy is well to do and has fairly nice income too. Why is there any need to work now? 

I couldn't believe he just said that! I mean I  agree if the guy has a nice financial background and he is capable enough to take care of his wife's needs, but is that all the reason why we girls work? Just for money? 

Where did girls should be independent and self capable concepts go? 

I have been working for a year and a half now, and I still do not feel the need that a guy should pay my bills, all the time! It's not just about money, sometimes it's about self catering to our needs and not being dependent on our dad or brother or husband!

Not being a feminist here, or think housewives don't do anything but if you have a job already and if you love it, why leave it for the in laws or the husband?

My mom was a housewife for 20 years and she did a fairly good job of being one. But now when she completed her law education and is interning at a law firm, she is so much more confident and knows the world! 

Women should be able to stand for what they feel right or love to do! May it be a full time housewife role or balancing between house and career, or even being full time career-oriented!

Women have reached the moon and back, they have also cooked rotis and stayed within 4 walls of their house taking care of their husband and kids! I am not saying women should do what men can do, but they should do what men can't do - multitasking! 

I have friends who had big dreams of doing something big and are now with kids, I occasionally see their photos on Facebook and Instagram. But there are also some friends, who are still single, and working towards their dreams! 

I had seen a movie called 'Free the Nipple'  where some women roam around NY topless showing off their female parts, not being ashamed of their body parts or guilty of their act! If men can roam topless, or just in a ganji, why do we women when we wear a crop tops or even a bra, whose strap if shown is looked down upon by the society? 

May be in India, roaming around topless would not be accepted or thought of as a shameful act, but why can't we have freedom to work post marriage?

My elder sister does a damn good job managing a kid, travelling all around the globe for her job, making time for her family and social events! Why can't we role model such women who do such amazing jobs? Why do we have to sacrifice all the time? Just because we are women? Or because we are easy?

2016 is half gone and we are fast approaching towards 2017! Are we still going to let women sacrifice always or call it real equal and give her a fair chance too, to pursue her dreams and follow her heart?

Let her be single till 30 or 40 or forever, let her travel and see places, let her study as long as she wants, let her buy her own house, a car or adopt kids and stay alone!

If we call our country a free one, when will we woman get real freedom from all the social webs which never let's breathe freely?

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